First date sex First date sex
Why do you always epilate your legs and choose the most beautiful and sexy lingerie when getting ready for the first date? You are not going to have sex on your first evening spent together. But why are you so thoughtful for your intimate clothes before the date? The fact is that every woman is subconsciously ready to forget about her morals for something special and exciting. And while putting on sexy trunks we say to ourselves: “What if…..”
Is first date sex acceptable? Most of my girlfriends say “no”. Some of them say something obscure like “perhaps” or “it all depends”. Of course, I wanted to know men’s opinion. Sincerely speaking, I was sure the stronger sex would have respect for a girl who would not be too available on the first date. But I was quite mistaken.
“But how else can I check if she is my match?” – this is the most frequent men’s answer to my question. There were some more unusual explanations “If she refuses having sex with me on the first date than she does not trust me. How can I date a woman who does not believe me?” or “What for I need a frigid girl suffering from complex of inferiority?” “I am not going to date her for half a year and then realize she is bad in bed”
OK, men are right in their own way. But we are not going to torture them for a year. We can make love on the second date. The question is: will this second date take place if you refuse having sex on the first one? I decided to ring my girlfriends round again and ask them to tell something about their own experience. It turned out that half of my girlfriends who refused first-date sex had another date, whereas the other half did not have it.
Is first-date sex really so important for a man? Is he going to give you up if he did not manage to enjoy your body? Does a woman have to jump into bed with everyone who wants her? How about morality and sexually transmitted diseases?
However, first date sex has some advantages. Psychologists say that such a sex helps to establish trust between partners. A man is eager to have sex with a girl as soon as possible in order to become more self-confident, to make sure this is his woman. While making love the partners share their inner energy and emotions so the connection between them becomes especially strong. On the other hand, first-date sex might disappoint one of the partners, if a man and a woman did not know each other well before intimate relationships. In this case first-date sex will inevitably be this couple’s last one. I mean, they will continue their sex life, but not with each other.
Let us see this problem in another light. Who said you expect the first date to be the beginning of long-lasting relationships or even family life? Perhaps open-minded girls do not have such an illusion. It is more important for you both to be pleased and satisfied. So be ready to say him good by in the morning. Just relax and have a good time.
Nevertheless, many girls always expect their “romance” to continue, unlike men who have quite another reasons for “jumping into bed”. If a man wants to spend night with you, do not deceive yourself. Do not think he dreams of a happy and long staying together with you. He really wants to make love to you and nothing else!
First-date sex is not as immoral as many people think. You have the need for sex and you have the right to satisfy this need. You are a modern woman who is living in a time when you can permit yourself almost everything. Of course, this does not mean that a woman should sleep around, but if a man is really attractive, why refuse having a good time? And do not be afraid he will consider you a come-at-able woman. You will not be an ordinary woman in his life if you do not feel humiliated. Neither he will forget you if you differ from his previous lovers. However, do not try to be too unusual, for instance do not tie him to bed and do not suggest using sex toys, if you do not know his sex preferences. Dildos, vibrators, sex toy dolls,
straps, chains and handcuffs as well as sex games and all this kind of stuff are good when you know each other a little better.
And bear in mind: if you agree to first-date sex, you must have confidence in your decision. This must be YOUR CHOICE.