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Some too serious men think that a woman who has sex fantasies is “dissolute” and cannot be a good wife. They consider that only men can watch adult movies and imagine themselves having sex with a movie star. Women cannot do the same.
Let these poor guys think what they want, the fact remains: women do fantasize about gang bang, or being raped by their fat and bald boss or about something else shoking and spicy. Even a decent librarian wearing grey suit and spectacles sometimes imagines herself participating in a licentious orgy.
Dear decent gentlemen! Why do our sex fantasies, even the most harmless ones, hurt you? May be you do not know what the images we have in our mind really mean?
First of all, keep in mind the following: the fact that your sweetheart dreams of having sex with a couple of black strippers does not necessarily mean that she is going to fulfill her fantasy at the earliest opportunity. So you should not be jealous and tear hair out of your (and her) head. Be more reasonable.
Did you ever ask yourself why such dissolute scenes come to her mind? French psychologists claim that usually sexual dissatisfaction makes women imagine things they would never do in reality. Therefore only you being her sex partner can change somehow the situation. Try to understand her. What does she need? What does she lack? If you manage to answer these questions, than half of the work has been done. The next step is to give your woman what she needs.
Let us see what the most spread women’s sex fantasies are and what these fantasies mean.

Fantasy 1. Four-handed piece

She happens to get in bed with two men. Four hands are stroking her, two tongues are licking her....The rest is too shameful to speak about.

What does it mean?

Believe it or not, this means you are a too lazy sex partner. Besides this she even does not hope your sexual relationships can be improved somehow, because she is not sure whether she can ask you to do something she likes: “Is he going to do what I want if I ask him to? Isn’t he going to take me for a prostitute?”
While imagining herself in bed with two men simultaneously this lady dreams of a situation where these two guys indulge her erogenous zones without waiting her to drop hints at her wishes. Four hands do their job better than two. One of two tongues will certainly get one of her most sensitive zones!

What is to be done?

Fortunately the saying “The more the merrier” is not always true.Prove you can replace two lovers. How can you do that? Do not expect her to be the first to begin speaking about her sex fantasies. Ask her what she wants and fulfill her wish.

Fantasy 2.Eyes wide shut

She is being made love to with her arms tied up or being restraind with handcuffs. She is blindfolded with a black satin ribbon. She is crying with enjoyment but she does not know what her lover is going to do next. This is frightening and exciting.

What does it mean?

Your lady wants to be absolutely passive. She wants to say “ I obey you. Do everything you want.” Simply speaking she wants to try something unusual, but she is ashamed of speaking about this.

What is to be done?

Congratulations! Now you can try all this kind of BDSM stuff you saw in adult movies. You even can shoot your own movie if you manage to make up a good script and talk your girlfriend into filming everything you do in bed. But please, be really creative, do not think that blinfolding her with a towel is enough to make her dream come true. Do not be too lazy to go to a sex shop and buy a few sex toys designed specially for BDSM play :some whips, handcuffs, masks and other BDSM accessories. But do not begin with all these sex toys simultaneously, otherwise you might frighten your girlfriend or make her think you are a maniac. First of all make sure she dreamt exactly of this. May be you were wrong guessing she wanted something spicy?

Fantasy 3. She and she.

She is making love to a beautiful and tender woman....

What does it mean ?

Actually, many heterosexual women have such a fantasy. According to some sexologists, usually women who dream of having sex with a person of the same gender simply lack foreplay. Their partners neglect this necessary part of the loveplay and begin intercourse after two-three kisses.

What is to be done?

Actually you know how you can help her. Caress, kisses, tender words, fantasy, sex toys .... Be creative!

Fantasy 4. Grandstand play.

Sex in train, in a public lavatory, in any public place. She and he are making love without paying attention to others...

What does it mean?

This means your girlfriend wants to be seen by others when she is desired, loved, adored...She wants to prove her being someone’s beloved woman and the very presence of sexual relationships in her life. Probably, she is not really sure her boyfriend really loves her and wants to stay with her for long. She is afraid something can deprive her of him: her girlfriends, his friends, or even his job. Sex for show gives her a sort of inward peace: “Look at us! He loves me!”

What is to be done?

Generally speaking, violation of common morality is quite expensive as you are very likely to be taken to the police station and then fined. Instead you can suggest her making love on a desert beach. You can even talk her out of shocking people – just show her little attentions when being in public.

Fantasy 5.Mister X.

She is sitting at the table and beautifully drinking martini. A fascinating stranger pays a few compliments to her and then takes her to a hotel room where he and she make love without asking each other’s names. In the morning the stranger dissapears having left a scarlet rose on the pillow.

What does it mean?

A stranger is someone whom we do not ask whether we did everything right in bed. This is someone who allows us to have pleasure without any obligations. We usually dream of something like this when lacking romance, when sex with a beloved person has turned into something boring and tiring.

What is to be done?

Don’t you know what you should do in this case? Then she has the right to dream of another man!

Let her enjoy sex with you, rather than have afterparty sex in a mysterious stranger’s car! Be gentle, loving and creative. This does work.