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Where is my orgasm?

Where is my orgasm?

Sex… Before you associated this word with such unearthly pleasure as “ice-cream” or word-combination “guaranteed weight loss program”. But now you say to yourself : “ I must have sex” and have a feeling like you said something similar to “ It is time to visit my dentist”. What happened to you? Why are you so indifferent to sex? You loved it, you really loved it, but now you do not see much difference between love making and teeth brushing. However, tooth brushing sometimes seems to be more pleasant, than things you do in bed with your beloved husband.

The fact is that you lost your orgasm. It leaved you alone without saying when it is going to turn back. But where is it? How can you turn it back? First of all, calm down and try to find out why you do not achieve the highest peak of enjoyment. The reasons can be various.

1. May be there is something wrong with your partner? You are a big girl and you can evaluate his abilities in bed. All his motions are dull and monotonous, he does not know where to kiss you, where to lick you, what to say to make you wet and come. Your body does not like such a lover.

You can change everything easily. Actually, here can be two ways out. You can give your lover up or find someone more inventive and enthusiastic in bed. Or you can check whether you are a good trainer and teach him everything a man should be able to do in bed.

2. May be your sex life turned into a routine? Orgasms hate standstill. Sensations cannot be exciting and spicy if you do not introduce something new in your usual sex schedule.

Orgasm is like a capricious flower you brought home from conservatory. It requires permanent care. It is not enough to transplant it. It must be taken care of, watered and fed up. You must treat your libido exactly like this flower. Change places for making love, try new positions, use some stimulating means like sex toys, vibrators, fetish kits and other accessories.

3. May be you lack energy? Perhaps at time when you were a passionate lover you did not have so much work and children, you did not exhaust yourself by every day exercising in gym. Just imagine, overstrain really can affect your libido. Active exercising wears you out, your creative work exhausts your emotional energy. Therefore, in the evening you are absolutely done in. You do not want sex, you do not want anything but going to bed. Even if your husband talks you into making love you lie idle like a sex toy doll without any feelings, any emotions.

Do not be so active. You wish to turn your orgasm back. So why do you spend so much time on your work, family and exercising? Why do you neglect your sex life? Try to find a day for idleness and you will realize that your rested body wants sex! On such days your libido gets free from various duties and responsibilities. It requires satisfaction of its needs. Of course you cannot have idle days very often. But anyway try to think what of these important things you do every day can be neglected sometimes. Find some spare time and devote it to SEX!

May be you have experienced a shock? This could be someone’s death or severe disease, job losing, a good friend’s betrayal. First of all, nervous system is closely connected with your brain’s “pleasure center”. Secondly, while making love you cannot help thinking about events that happened to you (at least subconsciously), you cannot relax. It is no wonder why your body which used to be so sensitive before does not react to your lover’s efforts to give you enjoyment.

Wait through your troubles. As soon as your impressions fade you will be able to turn back your lost orgasm. Wait a little and be patient. You will see: everything will be OK.

May be everything is OK? You have plenty of time and energy, you have a skilful lover, and your intimate relationships are far from being monotonous. But what is the reason? Why do not you orgasm? May be you stopped loving yourself?

Than do not seek orgasm. Try to fall in love with yourself. Get rid of extra weight, go to a beauty shop, buy fine sexy clothes, and wear stockings. Stockings are a strong stimulant of women’s sexuality. Nobody sees what a woman has under her skirt, but her imagination makes her burn hot with desire. This means – orgasm is turning back.