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Same-sex fantasies: should I strike a warning note?

Sex fantasies make sex really hot.

You will hardly find a person who lacks sexual fantasies: men and women, teenagers and even children-they all have sexual fantasies and there are obvious reasons for that.

First of all no one will call you a pervert or weird, no one will blame you for moral deficiency. In our hottest dreams your lovers know exactly what you want because "the film" is directed by you. But there are certain fantasies we tend to keep in utmost secret out of fear to be misinterpreted or rejected.

One of the most popular fantasies in this regard are those which involve same sex partners, anal sex, a man wearing female lingerie, and the like.

Lesbian or gay sex fantasy

Michelle says: I always considered myself definitely a straight. I never had any relationships with girls and I am quite satisfied with my sexual life with my husband. But the thing is that I often picture myself sex with a woman during masturbation: as if we make love using various sex toys, lesbian vibrators, dildos and the like. This really troubles my mind. I mean the thought of a woman caressing me doesn't evoke any negative feelings to me, otherwise it feels pretty pleasant to say the least of it. Should I think of myself as a lesbian and is there something wrong with my sex drive? I am afraid to tell my partner about these urges as he may not get it right.


This is not a cry for help, this a live fantasy which is actually one of the fifth most popular sex fantasies among straight people! The fantasy itself doesn't indicate any abnormality.

Was there a real same-sex person she wanted to have sex with? Did you feel this sexual urge as a compulsive? Have you ever felt as if you were not "born in your body"? Do you like making love to same-sex partner? These are questions which more definitely indicate someone's sexual orientation.

As for sex toys usage, like lesbian vibrator and the like it is not a sign of perversion at all, the most it can tell about a person is his or her fertile imagination.

Lesbian fantasy about men

However surprising it may seem, lesbians dream up about men too.

Sandra says: I am about two years with my girlfriend. We are very close to each other. One day we were just talking to each other about our fantasies. We were very surprised to know that actually two of us had "A MAN" in our dreams. Of course, we used sex toys for penetration and lesbian vibrator was a real turn-on in our bedroom, but lesbian vibrator is something different from a male partner, you know! It was like saying: "Are we really lesbian?". In fact, none of us wished this dream to come true.


Lesbians use various sexual practices, including penetrative sex with lesbian vibrator or dildo, and even have occasional sex with males and this has nothing to do with their identity and sexual attraction towards other females.

Lesbian vibrator, strap-on sex toys and the like are just a way to experience sexual sensations of a real penis and this doesn't mean they want a man in their bedroom. Because being a lesbian or gay is basically about identity and sexual attraction. The same can be said about those who consider themselves straight.


If you had had sex with another man (especially in teenage period) it shouldn't indicate homosexual orientation. You could have had homosexual encounter out of curiosity or other reasons and there is nothing awful about it. If you are a straight and make use of lesbian vibrator or some other sex toy, this can be only a sign of your love for experiments.

So let your fantasies drive you to the top of erotic ecstasy and make your sex life sparkle.