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Inability to reach an orgasm: what can be done?

How often do we hear about joys of orgasmic ecstasy and a true satisfaction which is attained through the intercourse? However, not so many women do actually reach the height of erotic pleasure. The problem of orgasmic dysfunction is well-explored in various studies, where inability to reach orgasms can be more or less divided into the cases when a woman never experienced an orgasm (primary orgasmic dysfunction) and cases when the ability to attain orgasm was for some reason lost(secondary orgasmic dysfunction). Account must be taken of the fact that orgasmic inhibition can be only considered so if none of the means of stimulation haven't worked positively.

What is the cause for inability to reach orgasm?
Of course, in many cases the inability to reach an orgasm is affected by drugs use, including antidepressants and alcohol can affect woman's responsiveness. The same can be said about chronic illnesses: problems connected to nerve system (multiple sclerosis, diabetes, spinal cord injury etc) and such conditions as hormonal disorders. All these are likely to influence woman’s ability to reach orgasm.
But more often psychological cause is met. As long as woman sexuality is involved, for most women sexual side is closely related to physiological state. These are usually anxiety and fear which in its turn makes a vicious circle: fear gives rise to tension, tension causes inability to relax and thus orgasmic inhibition.
In case of secondary anorgasmia, it is more often connected with problems within a couple, such as lack of understanding, any stressful condition and routine. Sometimes woman herself inhibits from pleasant sensations being too timid and not giving the right clues to what makes her feel best of all.
Negative approach towards sex and body can also be a major factor in provoking woman's inability to experience orgasm.

What to do if you experience troubles achieving orgasm?
Leaving aside those conditions when the cause lies in particular medical field, let's make it clear what can be done about this problem. First of all, the right attitude towards sex should go as a primary goal. No one is more aware of woman's sexual reactions and pleasure spots that woman herself. Thus what is really said is that a woman should initially get familiar with her own body.


Masturbation
If you haven't practiced solo sex yet, then don't hesitate to do it. It's much easier to relax when you are completely alone. Make yourself comfortable with the feeling of your hand or use sex toys which designed to do the job even better. Touch various parts of your body: clitoris, vagina, breasts, nipples and etc till you find what is best for you. You may use realistic dildo vibrator as for many women the more close r to "natural" the more comfortable it is.

Here are some techniques you can learn in order to get to know yourself better:
• As many women do not climax through intercourse alone and clitoral orgasm is attained by 90 % of women, the more stimulation you will give to this area, the more success you are to expect. As it was said earlier, you may take a dildo vibrator to massage this moan zone. Moving dildo vibrator up and down or in rotating motion is the way to adjust what is really right for you only. Later when you will be with a partner, you are more aware of your moan zones which were explored with your dildo vibrator and the ways that are gearing and exciting them better.
• After you got used to clitoral stimulation, go to exercise penetration. You will hardly find such an opportunity to twist and rotate male penis as you have it with dildo vibrator. Take things slowly. Insert dildo vibrator gradually and then adjust the speed of the most pleasurable motion. Just play and experiment. This will give you the vast spectrum of the ways your body can respond.
Sex with a partner
• You should know that one of the most favorable conditions for achieving orgasm easier is to communicate in bed. Though it doesn't mean you need to give the full range of instructions. Directing partners hand and showing him what feels more enjoyable to you is a very good hint to take into consideration.
• Choose sex positions which appeal to you. In this regard there shouldn't be any fears to try and experiment. In this regard, top position allows you to watch over clitoris stimulation better. As you become the one to control thrusting it would be much easier for you to make things work for your own good.
• When you are in a missionary position, you may as well apply some manual stimulation or sex toys use in order to increase your sensations.
• For many partners doggy-style, when a man penetrates a woman from the back is also very convenient way to successfully reach big O. In this position, another moan zone G-spot is better stimulated from this angle. Sex toys that are designed to please this particular spot are called G-spot vibrators or dildos. And if you were already acquainted with your G-spot using dildo vibrator it would be easier for you to find it with a partner.
• But of course, you should first consider individual peculiarities above all, which means that what is right for your friend won't surely be right for yourself.
• Of course if neither solo sex with sex toys nor your attempts to reach orgasm with a partner succeeded you may ask for qualified sex therapist and clear out for yourself what keeps you from experiencing orgasm.